Lessons Learned from The Holiday movie
In a list that spans the length of my arm, one of the staple “must see” Christmas flicks I pull out every year is The Holiday movie. For those of you who have been living on the Island of Misfit Toys and have no idea which movie I’m talking about, I am delighted that you chose to visit my website today because what I’m about to disclose may change your life forever.
I admit that I have issues when it comes to this movie. I embrace them fully.
The Holiday movie boasts a stellar cast of characters. Kate Winslet can rarely do wrong in my book. Jack Black is just the right amount of cheese. Cameron Diaz is just the right amount of dork and Jude Law is definitely the right amount of charm and hotness. THOSE EYES! CAN I GET AN AMEN?!
Nancy Meyers wrote and directed the film back in 2006. You need to know this woman. She brought us classics such as Father of the Bride, Baby Boom, The Parent Trap, Something’s Gotta Give, It’s Complicated and most recently, The Intern. In short — Nancy Meyers is the cream to my corn.
Full disclosure — I didn’t love The Holiday when I first saw it.
For those of you silently shunning me right now, calm down and let me explain.
2006 was a sketchy time for me. As you may recall, a year earlier my husband chose to start a life with another woman. I was in what friends call “the dark place.” When I saw The Holiday for the first time, I completely related to Iris and her plight to try and forget a man who was very much a big part of her subconscious. I also thought all romantic comedies were a sick joke — even this one which combined romance with Christmas. To put it bluntly, the movie depressed me and for years I wouldn’t touch it with a ten-foot pole. Even Jude Law’s chiseled jaw couldn’t break through the layer of sadness I associated with the film.
A few Decembers ago, my sister pulled it up on her newfangled, fancy-pants Apple TV. I sat poised with my hot chocolate as the sweat began to collect under my snowflake pajamas. I was too embarrassed to tell Jamie that this movie made me physically want to curl in the fetal position and eat gummy bears in my bed.
That was the season I gave The Holiday a second chance. I’m so glad I did. I saw the movie through a new set of eyes. Instead of identifying with the sad parts of the storyline, I chose to dive head first into the relentless theme of hope. And the idea of loving again. And Jude Law entertaining his adorable daughters as Mr. Napkinhead. There are so many great lessons to learn in this sweet movie:
from The Holiday
- There are jerks in this world. Don’t be one of them.
- You shouldn’t have to wonder if your boyfriend loves you.
- Never hang out on someone’s back burner.
- Do not buy your ex-boyfriend a first edition book for Christmas or Hanukkah. He will love it and then announce his engagement to a PYT from the third floor.
- When you find out your boyfriend has been unfaithful, throwing his clothes off a balcony is perfectly reasonable.
- Remember: Death by gas stove is never a good choice, no matter how bleak life may seem.
- Don’t worry if you haven’t cried in 15 years. I’ve cried enough for the both of us. I’m a major weeper.
- A good edit can make the trailer for a terrible Lindsay Lohan film convince you to spend $12 at a movie theater.
- The cure to loneliness during the holidays is participating in an overseas home exchange. You’ll end up staying in either an adorable cottage or tricked out MTV crib, meet the love of your life and live happily ever after.
- Make sure you have at least six adorable coats for wintry months. Even if you live in L.A.
- Fight the holiday blues by chugging a bottle of wine while you shop for groceries.
- Santa Ana winds are magical. Stand and wait for something to blow in your eye. A chivalrous stranger will waltz up and offer to remove it for you. Then cupid will shoot his arrow.
- Blackout curtains are awesome. Blackout shades that filter out all light with the touch of a button are as magical as the Santa Ana winds.
- Always allow drunken strangers into your holiday home exchange cottage. Especially when they look like Jude Law.
- Write to Jude Law and ask him to create a YouTube tutorial that teaches men how to kiss.
- Glasses make you look smarter. Or in Jude’s case, smarter and hotter.
- Make friends with more spry, old Jewish men.
- Girly forts with paper stars and twinkly lights are way cooler than boy forts.
- Any man who can improv in the middle of a Blockbuster just to make you laugh is worth keeping.
- You are better than that person who keeps dangling you from a string.
- If a man writes a melody, using only the good notes, explore that business…
- Froodle-dee-do is a word.
- Boob grazes are rarely accidental.
What do you think? Am I totally right about The Holiday? Do you think Jude Law was in his prime? Can you think of any other lessons learned that I may have missed?
(Thanks so my friend Stephanie for helping me come up with lessons!)