Singled out for being single
The fine folks over at “Single Roots” asked me to write a post for them this month. One of their fearless leaders, Jessica, gave me a topic to write about. I appreciated the boundaries because sometimes there’s so much in my head that it’s hard to streamline my thoughts. When I finally sat down to write the piece, I ended up with a pretty funny story that was nowhere near the parameters that had been given to me. They were nice enough to post it anyway.
Feel free to take a glimpse into the inner workings of Lincee Ray as she navigates the tricky waters of a wedding reception by clicking HERE.
I have no idea why I just wrote that in third person. Sounds like Lincee needs a nap.
Lincee, Big fan of you and blog. Been reading this blog for about 2 years now. I mean this from a place of love (not criticism or stalking)… your writing has become amazing. It has always been good, clever, witty, well-timed, etc. But this blog really, to me, is great writing and shows a lot depth and growth. I don’t know you personally, but I am so proud of you. Is that too weird? Maybe a little. None the less… your blog is what kept me hooked into The Bachelor long after an adult should have been watching this inappropriate television (unless she is getting paid to write clever and superbly writting summaries).
Raising a glass of Dr. Pepper to your awesomeness tonight!
Thanks Maria! I really appreciate the sweet encouragement.
Hi Lincee,
What you wrote was beautiful! Vulnerable. Truthful.
Oh, how I can relate…You are such a special, wonderful person (even if I don’t know you personally so I hope this makes sense). It always shines through in all of your writing.
You make this world a much better place.
Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability. It makes all of us “single”, yet “mighty fine” (no matter what age), women feel less alone in this big world.
AMEN AND AMEN sister. i’ve actually hid in the bathroom before to avoid the bouquet toss. worst.tradition.ever. blech.
1st samuel 16:7 <3
And I’m crying. This part “God knows me. He knows my struggles. He knows my desires. He labels me “His Child” and will do great things through me if I let Him. Acknowledging that His timing is perfect, I claim Exodus 14:14, “The Lord will fight for you. You need only be still.”” That is exactly what I needed to be reminded of this morning. Thank you.
Lincee, I too loved your post on “Single Roots” and love your blog…you totally make my day everytime you have something new for me to read! Please don’t stop! LOL
YOU ARE AWESOME!
1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 Have a wonderful day!
i confess…i’m not into the bachelor lately. so i love it when you post on other stuff. and i really loved this article. you are so funny and so real. what an awesome combination! i’m actually coming to houston this weekend to visit some friends. i’m going to be looking for you all over hoping we run into each other at some random restaurant. because as bloggy-dumb as it sounds, i really think we’d be friends in real life. : )
At 38 years old, I can finally say that I’m ok with my singleness. What I’m NOT ok with are the people who think that there is something wrong with me or pity me because of my singleness. It boggles my mind that, in this day and age, with as many choices as women have today, there are still people who think that every woman should be married and those who aren’t coupled should be made to feel inferior.
I have nothing against anyone who wishes to be married. I do to. But embrace what you are at this moment because, like you said, you are wonderful!
Great article and I agree with Maria…your writing does keep getting better and better.
Haha–You crack me up. Maybe I like you so much cause you think like me. “Sounds like Lincee needs a nap.” That sounds like something I would say.”
p.s. I commented on the blog with the article, but I loved it!
While I found you on your Bachelor(ette) fame, I love this side of Lincee. As a fellow Christian, I love your honesty. I remained single until I married at 31. Going on 14 yrs now, I can say that marriage is the HARDEST journey I’ve ever been on. (Sorry, Ben, Hotter than Crap Brad and Ashley…not to diss your journey), While I struggled with singleness, too, what I want to stress to you is to enjoy it while you have it. Looking back, I did not embrace my singleness like I should have. I didn’t appreciate it or enjoy it enough. I focused too much on the cruddy side of it. And sadly, while I love my husband and adore the kids we have had together, it is still the biggest struggle in my life–to stay happy in the ‘togetherness’. I look back and realize that God did answer my prayers for a husband and kids–and yet I still complain to Him. I need to be content in ALL things. I hope that God gives you your heart’s desire, though. And thanks for giving a voice to the single girl.
Thank you Lincee for sharing this article. I loved reading this and can so relate to what you wrote. I too have been a faithful follower of your blog but loved this blog so much!! You’re an inspiration.
Great post Lincee! I really related to it, and I know being the single girl at weddings all too well. Thanks for sharing. -Jess
Lincee, I can genuinely relate to your article, as so many can. I am engaged now, but it is not any of my own doing: not because I finally surrendered to the Lord, or attained a certain level of spiritual maturity, or because I am funny/smart/talented/attractive to men. It is simply because the Lord chose to say yes to what I’ve been pleading with him to give me for years. It is a complete mystery to me why he said no for so long, and now, finally, is saying yes.
Because our marital status is under the Lord’s sovereignty, I don’t think it’s fair or helpful (in fact, at times it can even be hurtful) to single a person out for his or her singleness. But even with knowing that our singleness is in the Lord’s plan, trying to rest or find joy in that can be so, so hard. The truths you are clinging to are just that – truths – and it pleases the Lord whenever we grow in dependence on him. And when you pray for him to develop characteristics in you that will go beyond your singleness – when you pray for the fruit of the Spirit – he will always say yes.
Your courage to be so honest and vulnerable has drawn me tonight to worship the Lord. Thank you for being faithful to him.
I so admire your willingness and fearlessness in sharing what you believe. It’s so inspiring and motivating. And very fun to read. Thanks!